No, I understand they're not criminal matters, but they have consequences that are not far off criminal matters... Family courts seem to look at them as though they are a finding of violence against you (where there's smoke, there must be fire), albeit a weak untested one. And they DO cause you to lose contact with your children (at least until the family court comes and mops up the mess they create).
So while they may just be civil matters, I don't agree that they have limited consequences. I didn't see my children for more than 3 months until I managed to get my case to the family court. That's pretty significant. That is a huge loss of liberty and even someone accused of a criminal offence is generally granted bail and allowed to continue life much as they did before until the actual date of the trial.
I certainly understand the need for them in serious cases where the police can see that there has been violence committed (actual evidence of it), but it is simply not right or fair (and too easy to game the system with) if you just take people on their word and hand out an intervention order willy nilly. There really needs to be some test of evidence at the very first stage of application IMO.
And yes, that might mean that some applications are rejected and then someone winds up dead. That would be very sad and unfortunate, but I just don't agree that innocent people should be screwed just to cater for the most extreme cases. It would be pretty rare indeed for someone with no prior history of violence to suddenly kill their partner without some fairly obvious warning signs. Not saying it couldn't happen of course. But what other area of law can you get someone restrained without strong evidence of a crime or an imminent crime? That only happens in police states.
As for your suggestion to accept without admissions, I have already tried that approach (the kids are named, and I asked for them to be removed). It was rejected by my ex/the police. There is already an exception to the "no communication" clause in my order for dealings with "child arrangements", but it still requires my ex to be willing, which she appears to not be. She's already said all communication is to go through her lawyer. If she refuses to engage, it doesn't matter if I'm allowed to or not. But I suppose that applies regardless of whether there's an order in place or not.
So while they may just be civil matters, I don't agree that they have limited consequences. I didn't see my children for more than 3 months until I managed to get my case to the family court. That's pretty significant. That is a huge loss of liberty and even someone accused of a criminal offence is generally granted bail and allowed to continue life much as they did before until the actual date of the trial.
I certainly understand the need for them in serious cases where the police can see that there has been violence committed (actual evidence of it), but it is simply not right or fair (and too easy to game the system with) if you just take people on their word and hand out an intervention order willy nilly. There really needs to be some test of evidence at the very first stage of application IMO.
And yes, that might mean that some applications are rejected and then someone winds up dead. That would be very sad and unfortunate, but I just don't agree that innocent people should be screwed just to cater for the most extreme cases. It would be pretty rare indeed for someone with no prior history of violence to suddenly kill their partner without some fairly obvious warning signs. Not saying it couldn't happen of course. But what other area of law can you get someone restrained without strong evidence of a crime or an imminent crime? That only happens in police states.
As for your suggestion to accept without admissions, I have already tried that approach (the kids are named, and I asked for them to be removed). It was rejected by my ex/the police. There is already an exception to the "no communication" clause in my order for dealings with "child arrangements", but it still requires my ex to be willing, which she appears to not be. She's already said all communication is to go through her lawyer. If she refuses to engage, it doesn't matter if I'm allowed to or not. But I suppose that applies regardless of whether there's an order in place or not.