The grandmother doesn't deserve the kids. If you are essentially fighting the grandma do you have a court ordered psych report on her? Or did family report writer assess the grandma? Are there existing orders for her to look after the kids? The reason I ask is that the judge may not want to make the decision between you and the grandma without her being assessed. If that's the case then you'll cop another delay. I wouldn't risk it. How do you know for sure the grandma is going to seek the custody? Has she lodge her orders sought? If you don't have family report or psych report on the grandma I'll get them ordered by the court asap as well as request supeonas any medical/police info on her.Situation is a sad mess and it never needed to be this way.