Hi Everyone,
I have been following and reading a number of posts regarding parenting plans / parenting orders/ consent orders as we are very new to this and want to understand the process properly. My partner and his ex have just started the mediation process for developing a parenting plan (and then a divorce).
Would appreciate any help on inclusions for the parenting plans, especially around interstate visitation, communication, etc. And if we should proceed to have these issued as family court orders through the courts.
Interstate; he lives on the East Coast, the child lives on the West Coas (originally planned that they would follow him over once established).
Since commencing mediation, she has been communicating frequently sending photos of the child (3 years), however, in the previous months, has blocked us on all communication (phone/email/text) contacting only to demand money (over and above agreed child support). We are concerned that as a parenting plan is non-binding, she will again block communication and prevent father/child establishing a relationship.
She is very manipulative and any attempts to resolve issues result in verbal abuse, blackmail, and threatens to have him charged for Domestic Violence (unsubstantiated) or kick out of the country (non-resident). Any communication with her causes stress. On occasions where we have have the child in our care overnight, we have a barrage of texts/emails from her, as well as threats of calling the police for kidnapping when he took her somewhere (home) that she didn't agree, or when delayed returning her due to delays from traffic and the constant harassment of text messages. On some occasions, she has cancelled visits last minute or demanded that he remained in the front yard of the property to spend time with the child.
There is a direct child support payment in place (well over and above the amount should it go through child services). She lives an Instagram free love life and in the past has used him as an ATM, as we have become more educated on not funding her lifestyle, she has become more manipulative (including abusing me in front of the child). He was not informed of medical issues, resulting in hospital visits.
Interstate isn't ideal, but we are hoping to find a solution that limits our/his need to communicate with her and have a plan in place that allows father/child to establish a relationship.
Appreciate your comments.
I have been following and reading a number of posts regarding parenting plans / parenting orders/ consent orders as we are very new to this and want to understand the process properly. My partner and his ex have just started the mediation process for developing a parenting plan (and then a divorce).
Would appreciate any help on inclusions for the parenting plans, especially around interstate visitation, communication, etc. And if we should proceed to have these issued as family court orders through the courts.
Interstate; he lives on the East Coast, the child lives on the West Coas (originally planned that they would follow him over once established).
Since commencing mediation, she has been communicating frequently sending photos of the child (3 years), however, in the previous months, has blocked us on all communication (phone/email/text) contacting only to demand money (over and above agreed child support). We are concerned that as a parenting plan is non-binding, she will again block communication and prevent father/child establishing a relationship.
She is very manipulative and any attempts to resolve issues result in verbal abuse, blackmail, and threatens to have him charged for Domestic Violence (unsubstantiated) or kick out of the country (non-resident). Any communication with her causes stress. On occasions where we have have the child in our care overnight, we have a barrage of texts/emails from her, as well as threats of calling the police for kidnapping when he took her somewhere (home) that she didn't agree, or when delayed returning her due to delays from traffic and the constant harassment of text messages. On some occasions, she has cancelled visits last minute or demanded that he remained in the front yard of the property to spend time with the child.
There is a direct child support payment in place (well over and above the amount should it go through child services). She lives an Instagram free love life and in the past has used him as an ATM, as we have become more educated on not funding her lifestyle, she has become more manipulative (including abusing me in front of the child). He was not informed of medical issues, resulting in hospital visits.
Interstate isn't ideal, but we are hoping to find a solution that limits our/his need to communicate with her and have a plan in place that allows father/child to establish a relationship.
Appreciate your comments.
