Am posting for a friend. Nil relation to previous posts (our situation resolved quite positively)
Father has not seen child since 3 years of age, child has just turned 10.
Father has had ocassional contact with mother since child was aged 5 requesting contact with the child. Mother was not ready to proceed and then ceased contacted, blocked father number.
Father has recently contacted a private mediator and the outcome is as below. I am hoping to bring back any feedback/advice/opinion/experience from this forum. If you read until the end and take the time to respond it is very much appreciated.
Mediation:
Father asked asked to start contact with child,
asked if mother could at least let child know that I’ve reached out and am available for whenever she’s ready,
Mother said child never questions or asks about father and for childs mental health mother doesn’t want to disrupt her well-being or way of life.
But when/if child asks about the father then mother will tell her that he is available and contact mediation or someone to start a process.
Father then asked if they could contact every couple of months to find out about child, or receive photos, mother said no contact as she’s in a relationship and she doesn’t want to jeopardise it. Mother explained no photos by explanation what if child never wants to see father, so does not want to give out her content without permission.
Father tried to reassure that he is a high functioning member of society kicking goals, clean, hard working and stable.
Father asked to financially contribute to child mother did not agree .
The mediator spoke to father afterwards and said -court not a good option, not good for child.
tried to say it’s a good thing as father has planted the seed that he is "here and waiting, serious and willing."
Father has not seen child since 3 years of age, child has just turned 10.
Father has had ocassional contact with mother since child was aged 5 requesting contact with the child. Mother was not ready to proceed and then ceased contacted, blocked father number.
Father has recently contacted a private mediator and the outcome is as below. I am hoping to bring back any feedback/advice/opinion/experience from this forum. If you read until the end and take the time to respond it is very much appreciated.
Mediation:
Father asked asked to start contact with child,
asked if mother could at least let child know that I’ve reached out and am available for whenever she’s ready,
Mother said child never questions or asks about father and for childs mental health mother doesn’t want to disrupt her well-being or way of life.
But when/if child asks about the father then mother will tell her that he is available and contact mediation or someone to start a process.
Father then asked if they could contact every couple of months to find out about child, or receive photos, mother said no contact as she’s in a relationship and she doesn’t want to jeopardise it. Mother explained no photos by explanation what if child never wants to see father, so does not want to give out her content without permission.
Father tried to reassure that he is a high functioning member of society kicking goals, clean, hard working and stable.
Father asked to financially contribute to child mother did not agree .
The mediator spoke to father afterwards and said -court not a good option, not good for child.
tried to say it’s a good thing as father has planted the seed that he is "here and waiting, serious and willing."