no legal advice from me today - well not much... Except - 1 thought - spending time with grand parents is a normal family activity. True? So she can get stuffed...
Look, you might still get a result in court in September. But I do think the courts use the rope theory... Give them enough rope and see who hangs. So mediation - more mediation, more mentions more bs. Then a final hearing in 9-18 months. What will matter? Who is the least stupid. Simple... So stupid stuff includes telling the kids bad stuff about the other parent. Micro-managing the other parent's time with the kids, insisting on phone calls not keeping the other parent informed of medicals etc etc.
Pretty much everything from here is not legal advice - just some musings of a bloke in Bali sinking a bintang while his ex wife looks after the kids during the winter holiday....
Really good piece of advice I stumbled across on my travels. When someone says something negative to a child about one of that child's parents, the person that gets most damaged is the person saying the negative thing.
Really good piece of advice I stumbled across on my travels. When someone says something negative to a child about one of that child's parents, the person that gets most damaged is the person saying the negative thing. Yep wrote it twice, deliberately because it is gold. So kids (well not teenagers) but kids idolise their parents. They adore them... So if the other parent is saying crap, let them. Kids have a well tuned BS metre. Especially when someone is saying something negative about one of their parents. I reckon my kids learnt to see dad as the one being nice / playing fair. They saw the mum as the one that would yell - throw soiled underwear at me... true story... etc.
Next bit of gold - Don't just DONT be that parent. Be the opposite. Don't just DONT be that parent. Be the opposite. yep wrote it twice - because it is gold. So don't ignore the BS. To ignore it almost invites the kid to think maybe the BS is right.... But be very very careful how you address it. So back in the day all my kids heard was that Mummy and daddy love them very very much but we agree it would be better to have two houses. So these days the kids live with me 90% of the time. But we send cards, school photos, I have a facebook page for the kids that they upload images and the facebook friends are all of my ex's family and my ex. The kids see me trying to care about their mum - Gonna be honest - I really have to try 'cause I hate her... But the kids have seen it all this time and they know...
My advice is gold. Why? well not only is it good advice from a legal standpoint, but it is just good parenting advice. No one gets through childhood unscathed. But us lot and our inability to get our s**t together with the other parent is what is most likely gonna scar them. Something my dad said once "we need to wrap these kids up in a blanket made of love"
Good advice...
rant over - bingtang time.
