A few thoughts. And a few contradictions.
1. Wait another year. Arguing for more time with a 5 yr old is easier than a 3 yr old.
2. Organise mediation. It will likely fail but you will have something to show the magistrate that demonstrates you've been wanting more time.
3. The time u have isn't terrible given the age of the kid.
The contradictions.
1. Apply to court as a contravention. She is obliged to tell u where the kid lives and I'm sure there will be other things like not informing u of medical stuff. while in court on those mmatters ask for extra time.
2. Get started now as the court process could take a year and the kid will be older.
3. Ask for more time and if she refuses stop paying. Pay child support according to the child support agency rules.
