The ICL will take in to account all your reports, so there all good, so I feel your good to go. Best wishes Loveson for you and your child. You are most welcome Loveson, don’t give up, you’ve come this far, fight for it. Best wishes again. I’ll keep fingers crossed
VIC Arrangement in application in a case
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I’ll just add one important thing, when you are with your child don’t speak negative of your x, don’t speak about her at all. Best wishes again
I will never say that to my son as I really don’t want to see my son get hurt. Thank you
That is so sweet Loveson, you’ve got his best interests at heart. You are more than welcome to ask me anything that me of help.
Goodbye for now. Stay positive.
In your previous case, did it require something big and solid to change the order with application in a case?
I mean now I have positive report to support my reason to change the order. But as time move on, I will not have another supervised report in the future if I want to change the order again as I will be in unsupervised time or overnight with my son.
Not necessarily, only if you give your x a reason to file, giving she has ‘strong’ evidence to back up why this is in the best interest of your child.
What you said in a post earlier I strongly believe you have your child’s best interest at heart.
Your x could file and say this and that, she will need evidence. If you are wondering at all what the x could file, for example, psychological and physical abuse towards the child, this needs evidence though.
Your x could use drugs and alcohol by saying you are an alcoholic, addicted to drugs, if this is the case you would probably have orders for urine screens, which can occur anytime on any day, you are given 24hrs from when you are notified to have this, if you have medication approved by your GP that does not hold any weight too be used against you. Let’s say you had drugs in your system from the urine screen this would not stop unsupervised time with your child, in saying that though if you were to continue having urine screens and drugs or alcohol were to continue showing up, your x could not agree with the orders and hold your child back as she could feel this is unsafe for your child.
I am relaying to you only what I have experienced, every case is different.
Do you mind me asking, how old is your child??
What was your relationship with your child before you went to court??
What happened for your wife to take you to family court??
I know crap can occur in anyone’s life, no-ones “”perfect”” whatever “”perfect”” is??
For me we are programmed to be socially accepted, which is a piece of ? to me, I do not care what society thinks, if I did I’d be a friggen mess.
For me it’s all about ‘TREATING PEOPLE HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED’.
I do not ever judge anyone and I believe to give people a chance, if anyone was to ? in my face after given a second chance I’ll turn my back on that person.
I have given chance after chance etc etc and wind up being totally used and abused.
What I’m saying to you whilst beating around the bush, please don’t feel ashamed of anything you want to say.
I’m not above you, your not above me, no-one should look down upon anyone, it is what it is, that’s just life.
For example, someone wearing a suit or daggy clothes, driving a Porsche or a beaten up car gives others a totally opposite perception of the two. This is so shallow of someone to assume the one in the suit or driving a Porsche is better than the one in a beaten up car etc, this is what society has programmed into SOME people.
I’m letting you know where I sit with people, as I said, don’t ever feel ashamed if you want to ask me anything and don’t ever feel you are below anyone, people do take advantage when they see weakness in anyone. Cheers Loveson
Thank you Alert. I do not have the drug and alcohol problem, so she can’t use it to defame me.
I asked the earlier question only because the court might grant me order of some unsupervised time and limited overnight in the beginning, I am just taking a guess as I know it tends to be gender bias from reading posts in this forum, even though I have a good supervised report to prove that I am risk free and have good bonding with my son.
So in the future hearing, I might need to apply application in a case to change order again for more overnights stay based on the previous built up of time arrangement with my son. By that time I am wondering what reason I can reply on for the change of order.
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