Please, can anyone help me how to survive from the unfair situations in the extra long time and endless proceedings?
The unfair is:
I did refinance and put huge amount of the refinanced money into a house which is currently under her name. That means I have to pay extra home load however she rented it out and took all the cash rental into her own pocket. I definitely can not hold this for long time. It has been almost 4 years since the family law proceedings started. The matter is now still in the waiting pool and not even a fixed judge to be assigned.
A few days ago, I had to hand over one of my properties to the bank. My another one is also in dangers. If the proceedings are still hanging like this I may soon become homeless.
I used to have stable job and income, properties and family. I had never expected just one night everything changed. I am now getting to the edge of bankrupt. All of these were mainly due to a low level frame up from the ex and especially the fatal unfair situations during the endless, extra long time proceedings.
As for the frame up I mentioned above, if you are interested you can read my another thread which was open on 2017: NSW - Framed by Ex - What to Do?
Background:
-- Before separation, we lived together 5 - 6 years, including 3 years marriage
-- We have some properties, my financial contributions were more than 80% when purchase
-- I worked full-timely during the whole relationship
-- The ex was unemployment for around one and half year before the separation
-- We have no children
Story in brief:
-- I did refinance on all of my properties and purchased a house.
-- During the settlement, my name was strangely removed thus legally I was excluded from the house.
-- Interestingly the conveyancer who removed my name became her family law matter solicitor later
-- I spent a lot of money & time on renovations. When all finished it was built 4 extra bedrooms
-- On a Friday night two police suddenly came in, pronounced an AVO against me without notice in advance.
-- While the ex-wife said she was going to fill the patrol and drove the only family car away hours ago
-- I was forced to leave the house immediately thus physically I was excluded from the house.
-- I did not know what happened until after one month some mutual friends told me the truth
-- The ex was seen driving my car, living with another guy in another city
-- The ex previously issued AVO against her ex-boyfriend while she was applying PR by de facto marriage
-- Then I found the advertisements on web to rent all the rooms of the house
-- The ex provided faked statement to police which successfully misled the police to charge me
-- At the meantime the ex lodged the application to start the property deviation proceedings
-- I had AVOs, criminal charges, divorce proceedings and property deviations at almost the same time
-- The ex delayed every single process. She applied to vacate the hearing & extern AVO all the time
-- The criminal charges lasted almost 2 years with 3 hearings and no chance for me to talk the facts
-- On the last hearing when her again vacation application was rejected she did not attend to the court
-- The police withdraw every charges against me but I had spent a lot of money and run out of my cash.
-- I also lost my job due to the longtime pressures & depreciation while she framed me up with zero cost.
-- As I was not able to afford home loan I applied to the court to sell a property under my name
-- The property was purchased before marriage and she had no financial contribution on it
-- However the other party objected everything and the property cannot even be listed on the market
-- I raised another application on January for this but the matter is still pending hearing to be arranged
-- I believe her purpose is to delay the proceedings so that to make me not afford legal fees
-- Because I contributed much more than her if proceeding is faster she cannot get much from it
-- During the proceedings delay she can get assets transferred slowly to her own. e.g. rental income
-- From her bank statement provided last year her debits are getting more and more
-- E.g., $5000 withdraw from ATM, then transferred from her mother's account marked "Loan to.."
-- She stopped paying any bills and her liabilities got more and more but she refused to sell properties
-- A lot of others...
I am worrying if the things are still going like this finally the assets will become negative and I will be homeless with debits but in fact the assets will be transferred to her side...
I do appreciate your help to point me towards what to do next to survive from this.
Thank you
The unfair is:
I did refinance and put huge amount of the refinanced money into a house which is currently under her name. That means I have to pay extra home load however she rented it out and took all the cash rental into her own pocket. I definitely can not hold this for long time. It has been almost 4 years since the family law proceedings started. The matter is now still in the waiting pool and not even a fixed judge to be assigned.
A few days ago, I had to hand over one of my properties to the bank. My another one is also in dangers. If the proceedings are still hanging like this I may soon become homeless.
I used to have stable job and income, properties and family. I had never expected just one night everything changed. I am now getting to the edge of bankrupt. All of these were mainly due to a low level frame up from the ex and especially the fatal unfair situations during the endless, extra long time proceedings.
As for the frame up I mentioned above, if you are interested you can read my another thread which was open on 2017: NSW - Framed by Ex - What to Do?
Background:
-- Before separation, we lived together 5 - 6 years, including 3 years marriage
-- We have some properties, my financial contributions were more than 80% when purchase
-- I worked full-timely during the whole relationship
-- The ex was unemployment for around one and half year before the separation
-- We have no children
Story in brief:
-- I did refinance on all of my properties and purchased a house.
-- During the settlement, my name was strangely removed thus legally I was excluded from the house.
-- Interestingly the conveyancer who removed my name became her family law matter solicitor later
-- I spent a lot of money & time on renovations. When all finished it was built 4 extra bedrooms
-- On a Friday night two police suddenly came in, pronounced an AVO against me without notice in advance.
-- While the ex-wife said she was going to fill the patrol and drove the only family car away hours ago
-- I was forced to leave the house immediately thus physically I was excluded from the house.
-- I did not know what happened until after one month some mutual friends told me the truth
-- The ex was seen driving my car, living with another guy in another city
-- The ex previously issued AVO against her ex-boyfriend while she was applying PR by de facto marriage
-- Then I found the advertisements on web to rent all the rooms of the house
-- The ex provided faked statement to police which successfully misled the police to charge me
-- At the meantime the ex lodged the application to start the property deviation proceedings
-- I had AVOs, criminal charges, divorce proceedings and property deviations at almost the same time
-- The ex delayed every single process. She applied to vacate the hearing & extern AVO all the time
-- The criminal charges lasted almost 2 years with 3 hearings and no chance for me to talk the facts
-- On the last hearing when her again vacation application was rejected she did not attend to the court
-- The police withdraw every charges against me but I had spent a lot of money and run out of my cash.
-- I also lost my job due to the longtime pressures & depreciation while she framed me up with zero cost.
-- As I was not able to afford home loan I applied to the court to sell a property under my name
-- The property was purchased before marriage and she had no financial contribution on it
-- However the other party objected everything and the property cannot even be listed on the market
-- I raised another application on January for this but the matter is still pending hearing to be arranged
-- I believe her purpose is to delay the proceedings so that to make me not afford legal fees
-- Because I contributed much more than her if proceeding is faster she cannot get much from it
-- During the proceedings delay she can get assets transferred slowly to her own. e.g. rental income
-- From her bank statement provided last year her debits are getting more and more
-- E.g., $5000 withdraw from ATM, then transferred from her mother's account marked "Loan to.."
-- She stopped paying any bills and her liabilities got more and more but she refused to sell properties
-- A lot of others...
I am worrying if the things are still going like this finally the assets will become negative and I will be homeless with debits but in fact the assets will be transferred to her side...
I do appreciate your help to point me towards what to do next to survive from this.
Thank you
