The Daughter 10 years old. I would think that something would have been picked up prior to this. I would hate to think that this girl goes through her entire life with a 'diagnosis' potentially holding her back already stating she can not do certain things as she has autism her mother having ultimate say over her decisions and choices for the rest of her life and the threats of such. She is scared and i have no doubt she does have some psychological challenges that need to be addressed caused from the horrible impact of the separation. Before the child had some play and say in what she wanted now it will be she just doesn't understand whats good for her she has Autism. This is why it's vital to have both parents involved there needs to be a balanced perspective. What is going on with these assessments of Autism?? one day long? you only need the input of the parents.. what about the school, other family members? how on earth do you make a diagnosis after one day?
Its only as suits Mum problem is mum declares he can see the children when ever then the stipulations and making it difficult starts. She has even told the children that the Dad can not connect with them on there facebook accounts. phone calls happen only when she decides is good. It completely makes sense when you say her mood. Everything is under her rules and regulations
Thank you for your help Atticus it is truly appreciated. I am very concerned for the childs welfare it just does not seem fair for the child. Im sure she will get through what ever challenges are directed at her just seems like our responsibility to these children to make it safe for them. All in all there Daughter may receive extra attention and help at school and in daily living requirements and this can not be a bad aspect. What i find bad is the negative impact it may have and the fact the Mother will be abusing the financial benefits from the government. Ultimately as has been pointed out thank you, the end result wanted is to have a court order put in place that has a schedule, access to the children with phone calls, access to medical records or anything regards to health and emotional wellbeing. The children to also be able to talk to the fathers family members. Is there anything else that could be crucial in all of this?
I've been in a similar position with my step-son. When we last applied for court he was assessed as having ASD and a number of other medical issues that we did not agree with. Mother advised the psychologist that my partner was not in the child's life and was an abusive drug addict and we were not included in the assessment. We were upset as the assessment was full of lies and completely untrue. Following advise on here we requested interim orders to be informed of specialist appointments and allowed to attend or request information from appointments. We also used the mother's lies; she informed the courts the child was experiencing night terrors after leaving our care, we advised the courts the child did not experience night terrors in our care but we would like to support the mother with the night terrors in her care - these lies stopped pretty quickly. We then started attending appointments with the psychologist with the child in our care - you can imagine the shock of the diagnosing specialist when the non-verbal child could speak! She noticed how much the child was supported in our care and actually wrote letters recommending immediate 50/50 split after about 6 months and realising that it would be in the child's best interests. The child now receives more support at school and while it is sad that the mother is using the diagnosis to receive more benefits - that's not really our business and to be honest, she probably would have found other ways to gain more benefits anyway. If the mother is as unreasonable as my step-sons then the only way forward is through court. She will never change.
You have no idea how much this aligns and how helpful this message is. Thank you so very much. Your absolutely correct it's not our business what or how she manages her life and she will go to all extremes to receive financial gain one way or another. What does matter is the child and child recieving the best care. I am very pleased that it has worked out for you and the child is recieving a balanced care and is moving through life nicely. They are both very very lucky to have you. Thank you again
I was in a similar situation too. I won't go in to details, but wanted to let you know that as their parent, if you have some nights of care, you are entitled to claim the carer allowance from Medicare as well. Contact the assessment center and ask them to send you a Carer Allowance - Medical Report (SA426) form. Your wife will also have access to NDIS funding for certain therapies and programs to help your child so watch that she doesn't send you bills and try to get money off you for those. When the child is older they can be re-assessed if they or you wish. And remember, some of the smartest minds are on the spectrum - Musk, Gates, Jobs, Einstein, all have/had it.
Absolutely, i would believe it had she aligned with everything in the report. it's just many lies had been stated so how can the report be valid? It makes no sense. I personally am a advocate for people with ASD and in no way am belittling or undermining the abilities and talents of these people and to a degree believe that they maybe be more evolutionarily advanced. I have worked with many people with disabilities and mental health challenges and i am proud to say they have been some of the most remarkable people i have met. The issues do lay in the lies and i don't believe the assessment of a person could be made correctly under these circumstances. Thank you for directing me in this area. Its too late for her not recieving more money. she even went through the child support and had a assessment whereas they granted her more money even though we claimed that there is a government program that supports this financially. She has gone to all degrees and continues to whilst playing the victim and being supported in the outcome. It really just blows my mind at times.
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