Hi All...
We have received a copy of the Supervisors Report for Supervised visits due to my granddaughter being seriously physically abused while in the care of her mother. It has misquoted several things in the report and the inaccuracies are quite glaring!
They have stated I often initiated conversations with the supervisors about 'the mother'. The examples being:
On the first visit I said that "K would not come to the visit". She is 16 months old, she didn't exactly have a choice! What I actually said was 'We are not too sure if she will come to the supervisor as she doesn't like strangers very much'.
When we first dropped the children for their first visit, I said, "She is a bit confused about who mum is as she calls everyone who is a young adult female mum". They have stated 'the paternal grandmother stated the children do not know who their mum is', T is 7, I'm pretty sure he knows!
At the last visit, the mother was late and my grandson was becoming anxious as he had had one visit where she did not show up or contact us. We drove the streets for 10 minutes. We have been told the children need to be dropped of at 2.55pm. She had not arrived and we were parked up the road waiting for her. I texted the supervisor and said 'Could you please ask the mother not to be late in the future?'. It was 3.05 when we finally parked at the play centre. That 10 minutes created anxiety in my grandson!
The last one, The grandmother stated T was in a bad mood - he was! And we had to work hard for him even to come to the visit. We had to talk it up the entire way there. Of course when he got out of the car at the play centre, he was all sweetness and light. They stated, 'During the visit the child appeared relaxed and happy'.
They also stated these comments where made in front of the children. Seriously, am I stupid but not that stupid! And even if they where I do not get the big deal! I am also really concerned that they are not transparent and tell the people dropping of the children that they are also being watched.
Look I know this won't change anything, but jeez, it has made me very angry how a professional service has got things so wrong!
Of course they have recommended extended unsupervised contact based on the 6 visits she had with children but they also do not know the baby was a victim of child abuse in her care as the supervisors are not advised of the issues.
I'm frustrated and hope I haven't damaged anything but right now I have a huge feeling of guilt and like I haven't helped our case.
We have received a copy of the Supervisors Report for Supervised visits due to my granddaughter being seriously physically abused while in the care of her mother. It has misquoted several things in the report and the inaccuracies are quite glaring!
They have stated I often initiated conversations with the supervisors about 'the mother'. The examples being:
On the first visit I said that "K would not come to the visit". She is 16 months old, she didn't exactly have a choice! What I actually said was 'We are not too sure if she will come to the supervisor as she doesn't like strangers very much'.
When we first dropped the children for their first visit, I said, "She is a bit confused about who mum is as she calls everyone who is a young adult female mum". They have stated 'the paternal grandmother stated the children do not know who their mum is', T is 7, I'm pretty sure he knows!
At the last visit, the mother was late and my grandson was becoming anxious as he had had one visit where she did not show up or contact us. We drove the streets for 10 minutes. We have been told the children need to be dropped of at 2.55pm. She had not arrived and we were parked up the road waiting for her. I texted the supervisor and said 'Could you please ask the mother not to be late in the future?'. It was 3.05 when we finally parked at the play centre. That 10 minutes created anxiety in my grandson!
The last one, The grandmother stated T was in a bad mood - he was! And we had to work hard for him even to come to the visit. We had to talk it up the entire way there. Of course when he got out of the car at the play centre, he was all sweetness and light. They stated, 'During the visit the child appeared relaxed and happy'.
They also stated these comments where made in front of the children. Seriously, am I stupid but not that stupid! And even if they where I do not get the big deal! I am also really concerned that they are not transparent and tell the people dropping of the children that they are also being watched.
Look I know this won't change anything, but jeez, it has made me very angry how a professional service has got things so wrong!
Of course they have recommended extended unsupervised contact based on the 6 visits she had with children but they also do not know the baby was a victim of child abuse in her care as the supervisors are not advised of the issues.
I'm frustrated and hope I haven't damaged anything but right now I have a huge feeling of guilt and like I haven't helped our case.
