and I'm self representing this far, and yes jjust today was emailed papers
So I'm guessing the communication from the court that your recovery order will be granted in May was BEFORE she filed a notice of risk & variation of orders? ... I think you need to be prepared that may change things
As a NOR has been filed, the court needs to take it seriously. What happens in May (if that date remains unchanged) will in part probably depend on the seriousness of the allegations being made in the affidavit, & perhaps your ability to rebut them on the day... Worst case scenario at this point may be that the recovery order is held over till the June hearing
IF the allegations are serious enough ...
In any event, I would be preparing your response to her supporting affidavit ... If you are not confident doing that, I recommend you consider getting some professional legal guidance on this one