Hello
I am an 18-year-old born in NSW. My mother passed away in 2016 and I began to look for my dad. He is not on the birth certificate, however my mother told me his name. I have photos of them together. She kept a diary of 1999 documenting the time of my conception and pregnancy and he also contacted my grandfather within that year asking if she was pregnant.
I found his address in 2016 after my mum died and went to his house looking to reach out. He acknowledged me as his daughter but I came back a week later and he told me he didn't believe me and my mum was a slut who was on drugs and he called the police and that I'm harassing him. There is substantial witness evidence that he is my father, not to mention he is denying having a DNA testing...
My father is known to be mentally ill + addiction problems so I wasn't surprised at his anger with me. From what I know, his only other living family is his mother who is also mentally ill? And his half sister.
Fast forward, I noticed his house had been sold (the house he had lived in since he was a child and lived alone in), so I contacted the real estate agent through text explaining my position and wondering if I could know if he had died or moved out. With no reply, I reached out to somebody who knew my father and they instructed me to email his half sister. I did so.
Today I received a call from his mother, explaining I have no right to contact them. I'm harassing them and I am a stranger to them and they don't acknowledge me.
She wasn't making a lot of sense and explained she had called the police and a solicitor and I should never contact them again.
Legally I feel like there must be something I can do. I have the money to get a lawyer, and I don't feel like she has any case against me. All I want to get is a DNA test.
Sorry for the long backstory. What can I do?
I am an 18-year-old born in NSW. My mother passed away in 2016 and I began to look for my dad. He is not on the birth certificate, however my mother told me his name. I have photos of them together. She kept a diary of 1999 documenting the time of my conception and pregnancy and he also contacted my grandfather within that year asking if she was pregnant.
I found his address in 2016 after my mum died and went to his house looking to reach out. He acknowledged me as his daughter but I came back a week later and he told me he didn't believe me and my mum was a slut who was on drugs and he called the police and that I'm harassing him. There is substantial witness evidence that he is my father, not to mention he is denying having a DNA testing...
My father is known to be mentally ill + addiction problems so I wasn't surprised at his anger with me. From what I know, his only other living family is his mother who is also mentally ill? And his half sister.
Fast forward, I noticed his house had been sold (the house he had lived in since he was a child and lived alone in), so I contacted the real estate agent through text explaining my position and wondering if I could know if he had died or moved out. With no reply, I reached out to somebody who knew my father and they instructed me to email his half sister. I did so.
Today I received a call from his mother, explaining I have no right to contact them. I'm harassing them and I am a stranger to them and they don't acknowledge me.
She wasn't making a lot of sense and explained she had called the police and a solicitor and I should never contact them again.
Legally I feel like there must be something I can do. I have the money to get a lawyer, and I don't feel like she has any case against me. All I want to get is a DNA test.
Sorry for the long backstory. What can I do?