so let me give you a hypothetical.... WHAT IF mum accused YOU or the father of abuse... It happens. Now it takes time for the courts to check all the facts. Wouldn't you be wanting to see the child AND wouldn't the child want to see you...
Now - do you think the mum is happy with this set up? NOPE not a chance.
Oh and has the child been put at risk with the judges set up? not really...
I've nowhere said/written that we don't want mum seeing our grandson, just that we want to make sure he is protected while with her.
If I was accused? That's an impossible question to answer truthfully, but if I was to hazard a guess, with my values and ideals, I'd be completely disgusted with myself, and (for myself) wouldn't want the child near me until such time that I'd gotten professional help... If I wanted to ever see the child again.
Do I think mum is happy with the setup? I imagine no, but quite frankly, I couldn't give a toss how mum feels. My main concern is my grandson, then my son. Mum is an adult, knows right from wrong, and purposely - willingly - and knowingly hurting a completely defenceless baby just doesn't warrant any concern from me for the hurt or sadness of someone who could do that.
Do I think my grandson is still at risk with the Judge's "set up"? Yes. Knowing this girl, it's very possible