Hi Sammy, I've looked into parallel parenting and I think we are basically already parenting in this way. We have previously asked the mother to communicate via an app and sent her the request as we liked the idea of using it to communicate, but she refused. If you're meaning its best to accept she just will not follow the orders, that's really frustrating, but I see your point that she is running rings purposefully and we are biting.
We have been focusing on the positives since Friday. Since my partner threatened court the child has been going to school more often than last year (still time off but an improvement), he has been given his own room (not sleeping in her room/her bed with her partner), the mother is even toilet training finally and agreed to speak to the child's pediatrician with us as we are concerned her putting nappies on the 7 year old is confusing him (hasn't worn nappies in a long time in our care and been fully trained and she's aware of this) and last week was the first week the child wasn't made to wear a nappy. These are all really big positives for the child and his development we feel, so i guess in that way it's worth the mother taking her frustration out on my partner if it means the child is reaping the benefits. We just need to remember this!
We have been focusing on the positives since Friday. Since my partner threatened court the child has been going to school more often than last year (still time off but an improvement), he has been given his own room (not sleeping in her room/her bed with her partner), the mother is even toilet training finally and agreed to speak to the child's pediatrician with us as we are concerned her putting nappies on the 7 year old is confusing him (hasn't worn nappies in a long time in our care and been fully trained and she's aware of this) and last week was the first week the child wasn't made to wear a nappy. These are all really big positives for the child and his development we feel, so i guess in that way it's worth the mother taking her frustration out on my partner if it means the child is reaping the benefits. We just need to remember this!