NSW Seperation Pending NSW

[NEWTOALL]

1) My wife wants to separate, am I disadvantaged to leave my wife and kids aged 11, 8 in Marital home (NSW) due to I cant foresee us living amicably and dont want to reconnect in the years time frame. We have no mortgage so if I go and rent somewhere is that off my own back ie not considered in child support or final$ negotiations, i am amicable happy to pay her bills and kids have a roof over there head for a year etc. I cant foresee doing a house share I just want to have a place for me and the kids asap, even considered just arranging it and walking out the door, any experiences / advice?? Head space is all over the place right now.

2) If amicable what agencies have people used or just via NSW family law, do I pay child support from separation date and then move my pay in a single account, burning question has anyone had to provide bank statements on amicable avenue, and how many years. I expect she has a stash account but not to concerned or if amicable bank statements not always subpoenaed etc

3) Finally has anyone just gone through lawyer and paid $50k etc so they sort out the negotiations etc I just dont have any energy and the money paid may be worth it in my scenario, anyways to approach my wife stating my lawyer is acting on my behalf so its not looking like im starting a battle !!!! If my wife is working will she get legal aid to pay for her lawyer?

 

[Atticus]

If amicable what agencies have people used

Avoid lawyers in family law as much as possible.

If amicable, i recommend you start with AMICA, an online AI tool provided by the Government that is proving to be very useful for many people and avoids the crazy expense and combative approach that most lawyers will take you down, often with disappointing outcomes.

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[lostinspace]

If she is talking lawyers already, it means she has already planned or has one, she will not tell you what she has done and it may be best you not disclose what you are doing either. It is very hard on everyone when it goes legal, people use emotion often instead of logic and reason.

You can find people who will help you both, as for just paying 50k, well that wont be enough if you go through the courts for everything, as for who gets legal aid etc, well that is too complex, but women have an advantage in that regard, the man will be expected to just take everything on the chin, regardless of what the media says, the women get coddled by the system and you will be standing alone, it will feel at times like you are fighting the whole world so prepare yourself.

re having a place to live, this is between you both if you stay under one roof, if you choose to go then that is a choice you have made, sorry to say it but but it is a series of tough choices ahead.