Hi,
I have a de facto partner of 3 years. We have a chiId of 3 1/2years old. i had a reasonably large workers compensation payout prior to the relationship. I lived at home (my purchase, own outright) for the entire 3 years, we both lived off my savings, contributions to raising our child 50/50, contributions to housework 50/50 but I've also done many renovations.
She ran a small business from home drop-shipping on the internet in which she spent almost all profits on herself and she stole a substantial amount (between 5-10k) from me. She has substantial debt left to her from a previous relationship (who she is now back together with, go figure, abusive ex). She contributed very little - 100 dollars here and there for cigarettes while the mass majority was all me.
We lost tonnes of money over 3 years to stupid s**t but all at my expense. I have a 180k superannuation, she has around 20k. I've given her 30k to find a place so she can provide stability for our child so I can work and provide for us but she blew it all recklessly, plus a few 1000s here and there. I'd given her to get by and get situated
5 months have passed. I've had our child for 95% of the time since separation. She's collected single parenting payment fraudulently in full for full 5 months. She is still not situated and living in a bungalow in a caravan park and is 4 1/2 months pregnant. Her abusive boyfriend does not work and has been spending my boy's Centrelink payments with her on themselves.
They have behaved like immature idiots for 5 months and f****d up here there everywhere (too much to write) while I've looked after our boy, forked out trying to get her into a place and stabalised, so I can work again and provide for my boy. I have their antics all written down in a diary and text messages and recently have started recording phone calls and times we meet in person to hand the boy over (rarely, because he's almost always with me).
My child dislikes being at his mum's place because he dislikes her boyfriend and is constantly misbehaving ("screaming" for attention). She's called in tears on a couple of occasions demanding I come get him, which I happily oblige.
She claims she still wants to be a part of her son's life. Her constant "in and out" of his life and absence has be very damaging psychologically to him and he's autistic so he works well in routines, not constant chaos. I dread what he will think when her new baby is born and naturally wonders why that child is worthy of his mum's time but not him.
I'm at my rope's end of how to make ends meet now. I guess it's gotten this far because I don't want to tear mother and child apart but I have no means to get by anymore. I don't want to have to claim Centrelink and thus she ends up under investigation and in deep s**t. I mean she's pregnant again. I can't work cause she's incapable to look after our son reliably. I'm out of options.
I tried to get an au pair in (live in nanny) but got a scam profile one, unluckily. Ex has even refused to look after our boy when I offered to drop him off in the morning, pay her babysitting money and pick him up again after work, when I got a job offered to me from a mate recently.
Anyways, will this totally irresponsible and immature woman be entitled to something if she takes me for property settlement just because of the child we have together?
I've heard that once a child is in the equation, the whole game changes and one party is not allowed to walk away with 0%. This heinous woman, I firmly believe, deserves not a dollar more from me. How can I best prepare to utterly demolish her, should I attempt it? Also, I have no means to provide for my boy anymore without her looking after him 5days a week.
So sorry for this long-winded post. Thanks a lot to anyone who bothered to read it all, let alone answer some of my questions or for even lecturing me afterwards.
I have a de facto partner of 3 years. We have a chiId of 3 1/2years old. i had a reasonably large workers compensation payout prior to the relationship. I lived at home (my purchase, own outright) for the entire 3 years, we both lived off my savings, contributions to raising our child 50/50, contributions to housework 50/50 but I've also done many renovations.
She ran a small business from home drop-shipping on the internet in which she spent almost all profits on herself and she stole a substantial amount (between 5-10k) from me. She has substantial debt left to her from a previous relationship (who she is now back together with, go figure, abusive ex). She contributed very little - 100 dollars here and there for cigarettes while the mass majority was all me.
We lost tonnes of money over 3 years to stupid s**t but all at my expense. I have a 180k superannuation, she has around 20k. I've given her 30k to find a place so she can provide stability for our child so I can work and provide for us but she blew it all recklessly, plus a few 1000s here and there. I'd given her to get by and get situated
5 months have passed. I've had our child for 95% of the time since separation. She's collected single parenting payment fraudulently in full for full 5 months. She is still not situated and living in a bungalow in a caravan park and is 4 1/2 months pregnant. Her abusive boyfriend does not work and has been spending my boy's Centrelink payments with her on themselves.
They have behaved like immature idiots for 5 months and f****d up here there everywhere (too much to write) while I've looked after our boy, forked out trying to get her into a place and stabalised, so I can work again and provide for my boy. I have their antics all written down in a diary and text messages and recently have started recording phone calls and times we meet in person to hand the boy over (rarely, because he's almost always with me).
My child dislikes being at his mum's place because he dislikes her boyfriend and is constantly misbehaving ("screaming" for attention). She's called in tears on a couple of occasions demanding I come get him, which I happily oblige.
She claims she still wants to be a part of her son's life. Her constant "in and out" of his life and absence has be very damaging psychologically to him and he's autistic so he works well in routines, not constant chaos. I dread what he will think when her new baby is born and naturally wonders why that child is worthy of his mum's time but not him.
I'm at my rope's end of how to make ends meet now. I guess it's gotten this far because I don't want to tear mother and child apart but I have no means to get by anymore. I don't want to have to claim Centrelink and thus she ends up under investigation and in deep s**t. I mean she's pregnant again. I can't work cause she's incapable to look after our son reliably. I'm out of options.
I tried to get an au pair in (live in nanny) but got a scam profile one, unluckily. Ex has even refused to look after our boy when I offered to drop him off in the morning, pay her babysitting money and pick him up again after work, when I got a job offered to me from a mate recently.
Anyways, will this totally irresponsible and immature woman be entitled to something if she takes me for property settlement just because of the child we have together?
I've heard that once a child is in the equation, the whole game changes and one party is not allowed to walk away with 0%. This heinous woman, I firmly believe, deserves not a dollar more from me. How can I best prepare to utterly demolish her, should I attempt it? Also, I have no means to provide for my boy anymore without her looking after him 5days a week.
So sorry for this long-winded post. Thanks a lot to anyone who bothered to read it all, let alone answer some of my questions or for even lecturing me afterwards.
