Have a 16 year old girl, 14 year old girl and 10 year old boy. Consent orders are in place and visitation was 5 nights P/F with a view to shared care. I have only just recently started spending time with the 16 year old now that I have moved closer. There were issues in relation to alienation. Have a great relationship with the kids. Two weeks ago there was a large argument between Mum and 14 year old which was bordering on physical. 14 year old rang me to collect her, I went and picked her up hoping things would settle down over the next few days. Next morning 16 year attempted to get the 14 year olds netball dress for netball that night and there was an argument where she was called names and she told the 14 year old to leave. I now had both of them staying with me. I was still hopeful things would settle down but unfortunately things escalated, Mum wouldn't let them have any clothes, then she decided to pack all of their items up and leave them out the front and give them half an hour to collect everything.
Mum deregistered 16 year olds car just out of spite. Mum requested to see the girls and I encouraged them to meet up with mum to try and sort things out and tell her what they wanted to do. Meeting went terrible with mum screaming at them in public and at them from her car. I have genuinely attempted to calm the situation down and give it time but the other party continues to escalate the situation to the point now the girls don't want to leave here and are not speaking to the mother. The mum has accused me of being unsafe around the kids which is completely baseless and made on assumptions. There are serious safety concerns with Mum's current partner. Extensive criminal record, been in and out of jail and kids are named on a DV order against him.
Mum is currently withholding 10 year old from me and I am not too sure where to go with this. I did see a solicitor yesterday who advised the older two can make up their own mind as to where they reside but feel as punishment I am not able to have access to see the 10 year old. I have offered to pay for private mediation to hopefully improve the situation between mum and the girls but have had no reply. Not sure what else to do?
Mum deregistered 16 year olds car just out of spite. Mum requested to see the girls and I encouraged them to meet up with mum to try and sort things out and tell her what they wanted to do. Meeting went terrible with mum screaming at them in public and at them from her car. I have genuinely attempted to calm the situation down and give it time but the other party continues to escalate the situation to the point now the girls don't want to leave here and are not speaking to the mother. The mum has accused me of being unsafe around the kids which is completely baseless and made on assumptions. There are serious safety concerns with Mum's current partner. Extensive criminal record, been in and out of jail and kids are named on a DV order against him.
Mum is currently withholding 10 year old from me and I am not too sure where to go with this. I did see a solicitor yesterday who advised the older two can make up their own mind as to where they reside but feel as punishment I am not able to have access to see the 10 year old. I have offered to pay for private mediation to hopefully improve the situation between mum and the girls but have had no reply. Not sure what else to do?
