Hi, I don’t know if anyone can help. I've Googled what feels like everything regarding custody of children, etc, but I still feel helpless.
Last year, my ex-husband failed to return our 2 beautiful children from his weekend visit. We had consent orders in place, which I thought safeguarded our kids. The orders stated I was primary carer and the father had visitation every second weekend and school holidays, etc. Also the children were not to be removed from the area we live by either one of us!
He has taken them to live 6 hours away and filed a notice of risk, accusing me of everything from being a drug addict to mentally unstable, etc. We are still going through family court. I have proved all his accusations wrong and shown that he has lied through all the affidavits filed.
I have seen my children 6 times in 14 months for a gut-wrenching 2 hours each time, and 3 of those visits he only produced our son and kept our daughter who is now suffering severe anxiety (she is only 8) and the mental abuse she is subjected to would make you sick. He stopped all contact in June last year and would not even answer my calls or texts just wanting to know about our children’s well-being.
The next court date was to get contact re-established which did happen but still the contact with my daughter is very sketchy.
My lawyer and the ICL is aware that this is a case of parental alienation but I wish my ex and his partner could see just what they are doing emotionally to our children and the damage being caused.
Our last court date was ajournded by the ICL as we are waiting for the family report to be finished so it’s another few months wait.
I feel helpless and like no one is really listening or caring about the children’s best interest. I guess I just want to know if anyone has any information. I want my kids back desperately. It’s heartbreaking not being able to comfort them or be apart of there lives. It’s like my ex is trying to erase me and our kids' family.
I should add that my husband and I split in 2014 and co-patented amicably until 2016 when he began a relationship with his now wife. Once she came along everything changed. I have always been polite and encouraging of her and the children’s friendship and never a threat as I felt happy that the kids had someone they liked in their life, but now my ex has the children calling her mum and tried to get the kids to call me by my first name (my son refuses to call me anything but Mum), but my daughter has her moments.
Our kids have always been very close and now it’s very noticeable the distance between them. The attention and focus is very one-sided as our daughter is being bribed. I would describe it as getting what ever she wants.
Sitting and waiting is gruelling.
Last year, my ex-husband failed to return our 2 beautiful children from his weekend visit. We had consent orders in place, which I thought safeguarded our kids. The orders stated I was primary carer and the father had visitation every second weekend and school holidays, etc. Also the children were not to be removed from the area we live by either one of us!
He has taken them to live 6 hours away and filed a notice of risk, accusing me of everything from being a drug addict to mentally unstable, etc. We are still going through family court. I have proved all his accusations wrong and shown that he has lied through all the affidavits filed.
I have seen my children 6 times in 14 months for a gut-wrenching 2 hours each time, and 3 of those visits he only produced our son and kept our daughter who is now suffering severe anxiety (she is only 8) and the mental abuse she is subjected to would make you sick. He stopped all contact in June last year and would not even answer my calls or texts just wanting to know about our children’s well-being.
The next court date was to get contact re-established which did happen but still the contact with my daughter is very sketchy.
My lawyer and the ICL is aware that this is a case of parental alienation but I wish my ex and his partner could see just what they are doing emotionally to our children and the damage being caused.
Our last court date was ajournded by the ICL as we are waiting for the family report to be finished so it’s another few months wait.
I feel helpless and like no one is really listening or caring about the children’s best interest. I guess I just want to know if anyone has any information. I want my kids back desperately. It’s heartbreaking not being able to comfort them or be apart of there lives. It’s like my ex is trying to erase me and our kids' family.
I should add that my husband and I split in 2014 and co-patented amicably until 2016 when he began a relationship with his now wife. Once she came along everything changed. I have always been polite and encouraging of her and the children’s friendship and never a threat as I felt happy that the kids had someone they liked in their life, but now my ex has the children calling her mum and tried to get the kids to call me by my first name (my son refuses to call me anything but Mum), but my daughter has her moments.
Our kids have always been very close and now it’s very noticeable the distance between them. The attention and focus is very one-sided as our daughter is being bribed. I would describe it as getting what ever she wants.
Sitting and waiting is gruelling.
